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Difficult conversations cover any topic that might be embarrassing, upsetting or controversial for either you or your child. It could also be something that might cause an argument or a conflict between the two of you. Show Sex, sexual orientation, masturbation, alcohol or other drugs, academic difficulties, self-harm, secrets, work and money are all topics that families can find difficult to talk about. If you’re prepared, it can help you feel more confident and comfortable to tackle difficult conversations. Preparing for difficult conversations with pre-teens and teenagersThere are no scripts for difficult conversations and tricky topics. But it’s a good idea to think about these topics before your child asks. If you work out a few key points about sex, alcohol, parties and so on beforehand – and even practise them – you’ll be ready when your child asks a tricky question about sex while you’re driving! And when you’ve had a chance to think about these topics, it’s also a good idea to raise them before your child asks, so your child knows they can talk to you. For example, early conversations about things like sexting can help your child stay safe. Managing difficult conversations with pre-teens and teenagersFirst reactions
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Your child is becoming an independent young person with their own beliefs, values and opinions. There’ll be times when you and your child have different opinions about tricky topics. That’s OK. This gives you both the chance to hear and respect new perspectives. When pre-teens and teenagers won’t have difficult conversationsIt’s common for teenagers to avoid talking about embarrassing or upsetting topics, especially if you raise them first. Sometimes you might not even realise a topic is upsetting or embarrassing until you raise it. If your child doesn’t want to have difficult conversations with you, you could try the following:
Benefits of difficult conversationsTackling difficult conversations together with your child is a sign that you have a healthy relationship. It helps to keep your relationship with your child close and trusting. If you’re warm, accepting, non-judgmental and uncritical, and also open to negotiating and setting limits, your child is likely to feel more connected to you. Your child is also more likely to discuss issues with you in the future. And if you know what’s going on in your child’s life, you’re better placed to help them manage difficult situations. Discussing tricky topics with you gives your child the opportunity to explore their choices and work out whether they’re the right ones for them. Try not to avoid difficult conversations with your child. If you do, your child might end up making choices that have negative consequences. For example, a sexually active teenager who doesn’t ask for advice about contraception might end up with an unplanned pregnancy or a sexually transmitted infection. Tricky topics to discuss with pre-teens & teenagersAlcohol and other drugs Media and social media Mental health Relationships, sex and sexuality School and social life
How was school today? Good. What did you do? Not much. Sound familiar? They say the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result. Yet how many of us ask our teens exactly the same questions, day after day - and still hope that, this time, we’ll actually start a conversation? Some US high school students took pity on their parents, and recently set about generating 100 questions that might elicit more than monosyllables. They range from the slightly scary ("How would you describe my parenting style?") to the somewhat whimsical ("Do you believe in aliens?") to the downright dangerous ("What do you think of my hairstyle?"). Here they are in full. Be brave!
(source: Psychology Today) |