What are 4 ways to relieve stress?

If you're stressed, whether by your job or something more personal, the first step to feeling better is to identify the cause.

The most unhelpful thing you can do is turn to something unhealthy to help you cope, such as smoking or drinking.

Not taking control of the situation and doing nothing can make your problems worse.

Some of the keys to good stress management are building emotional strength, being in control of your situation, having a good social network, and adopting a positive outlook. 

What you can do to address stress

Try these 10 stress-busting suggestions:

Be active

Exercise won't make your stress disappear, but it can reduce some of the emotional intensity that you're feeling, clearing your thoughts and letting you deal with your problems more calmly.

For more advice, read about exercise for depression.

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Take control

If you think you cannot do anything about your problem, your stress can get worse.

That feeling of loss of control is one of the main causes of stress and lack of wellbeing.

The act of taking control is in itself empowering, and it's a crucial part of finding a solution that satisfies you and not someone else.

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Connect with people

A good support network of colleagues, friends and family can ease your work troubles and help you see things in a different way.

The activities we do with friends can help us relax and relieve stress.

Talking things through with a friend may also help you find solutions to your problems.

Read about 5 steps to mental wellbeing, including the benefits of connecting with other people.

Have some "me time"

Many of us work long hours, meaning we often don't spend enough time doing things we really enjoy.

It's important to take some time for socialising, relaxation or exercise.

You could try setting aside a couple of nights a week for some quality "me time" away from work.

Challenge yourself

Setting yourself goals and challenges, whether at work or outside, such as learning a new language or a new sport, can help build confidence. This may help you deal with stress.

It can also make you want to do things and be active.

Avoid unhealthy habits

Don't rely on alcohol, smoking and caffeine as your ways of coping.

They might provide temporary relief, but in the long term, these crutches won't solve your problems. They'll just create new ones.

It's best to tackle the cause of your stress.

Help other people

Evidence shows that people who help others, through activities such as volunteering or community work, often become more resilient.

If you don't have time to volunteer, try to do someone a favour every day. It can be something as small as helping someone cross the road or going on a coffee run for colleagues.

Find out more about giving for mental wellbeing

Work smarter, not harder

Working smarter means prioritising your work, concentrating on the tasks that'll make a real difference.

Leave the least important tasks to last. Accept that you will not have time for everything.

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Try to be positive

Look for the positives in life, and things for which you're grateful.

Try writing down 3 things that went well, or for which you're grateful, at the end of every day.

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In this audio guide, a doctor helps you to replace negative thoughts with more positive thinking.

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Accept the things you can't change

Changing a difficult situation isn't always possible. Try to concentrate on the things you do have control over.

For example, if your company is making redundancies, you could focus on the things that you can control, such as looking for a new job.

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In this audio guide, a doctor explains what you can do to give yourself the best chance of a good night's sleep.

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There never seems to be enough hours in a day. And in those few hours, you're loaded with deadlines, responsibilities, errands and expectations. With stress weighing you down, daily tasks get harder and harder to handle — like a heavy backpack getting heavier as the day goes on.

Fortunately, there are 4 steps to help reduce stress and cope with the inevitable stressors of everyday life:

1. Avoid.

Believe it or not, it is possible to escape some of the minor stressors that tend to trouble people:
  • Take control of the stress that fills your day by finding ways to ways to make the situation better. For example, if your commute is stressful, try buying a new CD to make it more enjoyable.
  • Create distance between you and something that causes stress. If a co-worker continually irritates you, create physical distance between the two of you.
  • Say no when necessary.

2. Alter.

Communicate clearly and let people know your expectations. It can make a world of difference:
  • Respectfully ask someone to alter how they are treating you. Remember to use "I" statements when addressing someone about how you feel.
  • State your limitations in advance. For example, you can say, "I only have five minutes to talk."

3. Accept.

Accepting the situation can ease much of the stress when avoiding and altering doesn't work:
  • Talk with someone about how you are feeling. Call a friend, get coffee with a relative or schedule an appointment with a therapist.
  • Forgive yourself or others. It is an important element of accepting stressful situations, and moving on is easier than sitting around stressing about uncontrollable situations.

4. Adapt.

Changing your standards and expectations of stressful situations can help you cope with stress:
  • Don't strive for perfection. Instead make reasonable substitutes throughout your daily life.
  • Choose dinners that are easier to prepare and still make your family happy.
  • Don't replaying stressful situations over and over in your head.
  • Choose to focus on the positive aspects in your life.
  • Change your perspective by asking yourself if the stressor will matter in five years.

Stress is a part of everyday life. Practicing these four steps can help to provide balance for a healthier, happier lifestyle.

Learn more about stress:

  • Get 5 tips to manage stress.
  • Take a mental and emotional health assessment.
  • Find out how to cope if you're overwhelmed by anxiety.
  • Get tips to keep stress from hurting your heart.

Alan Conway, M.D., is a Family Medicine physician in Eau Claire, Wisconsin.


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